Topic: What mood are you in?

[Gash?]

This is my random number 1000 post so i am in a triumphant mood

Meh, try 10,000
THIS IS MINE
 

[Gash?]

Rightm looks like we'll just roll on, she's said it was just drunkenness so I'm not going to be changing my habits or anything. As far as I'm concerned, I've always been better for her than she has for me and she f***ing knows that, so if she does it again she's throwing it all away. 

From there, I don't know, but I definitely don't mind forgiving her just now. I knew she had it in her, as she did it with her Ex, so I have actually always expected it in some manner. But, it's just making little odd things that have happened in the past feel like there might have been something else to it.

I'll not let her away with it again, but we all deserve a second chance. Essentially, we'd destroy each others lives if I wanted to break up, never mind Kiefer's..  which my mate seems to be pushing me towards.

Hopefully I've nowt to update on by Wednesday, but I'll grill her then about past things that never added up.

I really feel for your mate, but like has been said got a kid to think about.
Trust is f***ed now.

[GM]

Rightm looks like we'll just roll on, she's said it was just drunkenness so I'm not going to be changing my habits or anything. As far as I'm concerned, I've always been better for her than she has for me and she f***ing knows that, so if she does it again she's throwing it all away. 

From there, I don't know, but I definitely don't mind forgiving her just now. I knew she had it in her, as she did it with her Ex, so I have actually always expected it in some manner. But, it's just making little odd things that have happened in the past feel like there might have been something else to it.

I'll not let her away with it again, but we all deserve a second chance. Essentially, we'd destroy each others lives if I wanted to break up, never mind Kiefer's..  which my mate seems to be pushing me towards.

Hopefully I've nowt to update on by Wednesday, but I'll grill her then about past things that never added up.

I really feel for your mate, but like has been said got a kid to think about.
Trust is f***ed now.

Yeah, Gash is right. You should probably just take your lass out one night, then leave her in the freezing cold and phone your folks to come and pick you up but not give her a lift home. That'll teach the cow.

[LBW]

Rightm looks like we'll just roll on, she's said it was just drunkenness so I'm not going to be changing my habits or anything. As far as I'm concerned, I've always been better for her than she has for me and she f***ing knows that, so if she does it again she's throwing it all away. 

From there, I don't know, but I definitely don't mind forgiving her just now. I knew she had it in her, as she did it with her Ex, so I have actually always expected it in some manner. But, it's just making little odd things that have happened in the past feel like there might have been something else to it.

I'll not let her away with it again, but we all deserve a second chance. Essentially, we'd destroy each others lives if I wanted to break up, never mind Kiefer's..  which my mate seems to be pushing me towards.

Hopefully I've nowt to update on by Wednesday, but I'll grill her then about past things that never added up.

I really feel for your mate, but like has been said got a kid to think about.
Trust is f***ed now.

Yeah, Gash is right. You should probably just take your lass out one night, then leave her in the freezing cold and phone your folks to come and pick you up but not give her a lift home. That'll teach the cow.

   (apart from the serious issue)

[Interpolic]

All the best to you Bluf, feel for you a lot mate.  You need to talk through it so that she knows she's betrayed your trust, and perhaps you guys need to set aside more time for yourselves when you're finally ready to forgive her.  You seem to have done a good job of keeping yourself together though man, nice one.



My lass is actually the only thing keeping me going at the minute but I'm just trying to get through the week and hopefully get to the doctor's at some point.  My boss practically held my hand through my shift today, so she's been understanding but she knows I'm an absolute wreck now.

Sounds incredibly soft but I can't wait to talk to me mam on Wednesday.  She's been on holiday and I didn't want to ruin it for her by ringing her with this s***, but she knows a bit about this stuff due to her line of work so will ask her about it when she gets back.

Thanks to people on here for their kind and constructive words, whether on the forum or PM or otherwise.  I've just been staying clear of posting because I don't want to get into this s*** again while I'm trying to hold it together at work.  Just trying to keep my mind off it for now, which is pretty difficult.

[Gash?]

Rightm looks like we'll just roll on, she's said it was just drunkenness so I'm not going to be changing my habits or anything. As far as I'm concerned, I've always been better for her than she has for me and she f***ing knows that, so if she does it again she's throwing it all away. 

From there, I don't know, but I definitely don't mind forgiving her just now. I knew she had it in her, as she did it with her Ex, so I have actually always expected it in some manner. But, it's just making little odd things that have happened in the past feel like there might have been something else to it.

I'll not let her away with it again, but we all deserve a second chance. Essentially, we'd destroy each others lives if I wanted to break up, never mind Kiefer's..  which my mate seems to be pushing me towards.

Hopefully I've nowt to update on by Wednesday, but I'll grill her then about past things that never added up.

I really feel for your mate, but like has been said got a kid to think about.
Trust is f***ed now.

Yeah, Gash is right. You should probably just take your lass out one night, then leave her in the freezing cold and phone your folks to come and pick you up but not give her a lift home. That'll teach the cow.

Ay, bitch deserved it! Still sends me the occasional text like, treat 'em mean 

[Keefaz]

Gives you carte blanche to do whatever you want now.

[Gash?]

Carte blanche used in one of the weirdest situations ever, but yeh it does.

[madras]

no it doesn't.

[midds]

Can't see any good that can come from 'getting your own back'. Absolutely ridiculous tbh.

[BlufPurdi]

Nah, I'd end out feeling even worse cause I'm such a f***ing sap.  f*** it though, bed time.

[Ronaldo]

I respect you for revealing this, Bluf.

I personally think you should cheat on her twice, the anger will probably dissipate.

[Clay]

I went through similar s*** with my ex and it just got messy and f***ed up from then on, ended up staying together for another year or so which was just filled with arguments and constant jealousy/mistrust from both sides, ended up getting my own back a couple of times when p*ssed and just felt like s***, It'll all depend on you I suppose and how you'll handle it, she's going to get over it a lot quicker than you.

Feel for you mate Nothing worse.

[Super Duper Branko Strupar]

All the best with it all Bluf.
It may help taking into account your feelings before this as well as considering your feelings currently when you have a chat. Make certain you say exactly what you want to. Wouldn't be good to have some things still up in the air coming out of a situation like this.

[BlufPurdi]

Cheers for the words, guys.

We seem to be absolutely fine this morning, which is what is bothering me most.  I mean, honestly, the whole revelation lasted no longer than 5 minutes, tops, so surely she can't reckon it's all done and dusted?  Don't have it in me to make snide remarks which'll not help anyway.  Just need to bide my time till tomorrow.

Working soon, with Katie, all day..

[MKSC]

Bluf, I feel for you. I had a similar issue with my ex-wife. She was messing about with one of my best friends for a while. Both insist they never slept together but I don't believe them, and still don't. I didn't forgive her as such but being the sort of bloke that I am - non-violent, calm, reasonably intelligent - I decided to cut him out of my life and try to salvage my marriage, especially as we had a son with a baby on the way. As he was very popular with my group of friends and I was always sort of on the outside as I had a wife and kid it virtually killed off my social life as he was always there.

From then on though I had real problems trusting her. She was very secretive with phone calls and texts, was often not where she said she would be and it all came to a head a couple of months down the line from the original incident(s). Her step-dad took me to the pub and told me I was better off without her because he knows she's cheating on me and I should just concentrate on being a good dad to my kid. It turns out she had been seeing her brothers friend all along in addition to seeing my friend. It left me wondering how long it had been going on? how many blokes had there been? were my kids actually mine?

I'm now of the opinion that if anyone ever cheated on me there would be no second chance. I guess it comes down to what you want. Just because you have a kid is no reason to stay with her. You should only do that if you think you really do have a long term future together. If you learn to trust her again and accept that it was a one off mistake then maybe you can move on, for me though I was paranoid the whole time (or in this case, right on the money) and I felt a hell of a lot better when it was all over. I have a great relationship with my kids now and she has got a bloke who she has kids with so they have a settled family. If she had still been with me I reckon we would have seriously damaged the kids because I would have been questioning her and doubting her for years.

Still, only you can decide and it will take you time to think it through. But don't let her return to normality too soon, if it seems like it's done and dusted so soon then she may think she can get away with it again because you'll just forgive her. Make sure she realises just how much she has hurt you.

[MKSC]

In other news. Bastarding tube staff are on strike again. It wouldn't normally bother me as I hardly use the tube, but at the minute I am going baseball training in Finsbury Park on Tuesday evenings and the easiest way to get there is on the tube. I'm going to have to lug myself to a different station and take some ridiculous route to get there.

Do the Metro people ever strike in Newcastle??

[Disco]

In other news. Bastarding tube staff are on strike again. It wouldn't normally bother me as I hardly use the tube, but at the minute I am going baseball training in Finsbury Park on Tuesday evenings and the easiest way to get there is on the tube. I'm going to have to lug myself to a different station and take some ridiculous route to get there.

Do the Metro people ever strike in Newcastle??

Doubt it, most of them get paid for doing f*** all anyway from what i've seen.

[Messi]

Totally buzzing, just back from the best holiday of my life.

Liver's about to explode and my voice has been half lost since friday but f*** I wanna go back.

[Toon's Taylor]

Don't stay just for the kid Bluf or use him as an excuse for staying, I made that mistake and it nearly killed the pair of us (wish I had have topped her now) though our problems were more fundamental than cheating, if she had I'd have walked moons beforehand; no she was just a plain old vile spastic c***.

Once a cheat always a cheat, i'd personally be off, you'd deserve and will easily find better.

[Dem BABA]

Don't stay just for the kid Bluf or use him as an excuse for staying, I made that mistake and it nearly killed the pair of us (wish I had have topped her now) though our problems were more fundamental than cheating, if she had I'd have walked moons beforehand; no she was just a plain old vile spastic c***.

Once a cheat always a cheat, i'd personally be off, you'd deserve and will easily find better.

Yeah?

Bluf, do you really have deep feelings for the girl? From your posts it seems as though you dislike or resent her at this point. You are a relatively young, man (I think you are under 20-50). You don't need to trap yourself in a bad situation with a bad woman for a long portion of your life. Time on Earth is too short for this. Be a damn good father and treat the woman with respect as she birthed your child. You don't have to do anymore. You don't have to sacrifice yourself like that.

[Dem BABA]

A leopard will never change it's spots.
You do now have permission to do it yourself though.

And nor should you want to.

You are always going to want to. We are all flawed. We all covet the flesh. It is what makes marriage difficult. you have to overcome temptation.

[Interpolic]

In other news. Bastarding tube staff are on strike again. It wouldn't normally bother me as I hardly use the tube, but at the minute I am going baseball training in Finsbury Park on Tuesday evenings and the easiest way to get there is on the tube. I'm going to have to lug myself to a different station and take some ridiculous route to get there.

Do the Metro people ever strike in Newcastle??

It took me 4 and a half hours to get to work today.

Tubes were back doing a limited service by the time I finished to go home, but it was absolute carnage this morning, incredible stuff.

[Dave]

You are a relatively young, man (I think you are under 20-50).

I like the pause too.

[Gash?]

A leopard will never change it's spots.
You do now have permission to do it yourself though.

And nor should you want to.

You are always going to want to. We are all flawed. We all covet the flesh. It is what makes marriage difficult. you have to overcome temptation.

Are you victor from big brother?
He was having this very discussion tonight.